He could be cheating on you now by going back to her to ease of the pain his ego suffered. Needless to say when we got off the phone I spent the night crying. But when a guy is a coward who doesnt know how to express his feelings, then hell choose the easiest way out. but what can I say. You now know this guys character. Sorry for bad English since its not my mother language. Let him ask you some questions, have a little light conversation and then share your thoughts with him. I like to feel Im a rational human being, but even Ive creeped on profiles of people I thought my object of affection was interested inthat makes me a psycho? after all that he went for the hug but not the kiss. Run, sweetie, run!!!! An example is that he still has his profile up, Im not his girlfriend, and that I needed to lay off on the PDA. I dont understand it or him at all. It just hurts cause I really did fall for him and he looked me in my eyes and said how so in love he was. One of my dates recently told me she spent 6 months with a guy who was a total robot and never showed a shred of emotion, yet when he finally broke up with her she was hurt. I could have faded and ignored her, but she said she also had trouble keeping friends and I thought reaching out with honesty might help her out in the long run. My online boyfriend of 15 months asked for a 4-6 week break after a few misunderstandings and perhaps my neediness issues.We are both in our 40s, it was a loving long distance relationship, and we have met about 4 months ago, which was fantastic, we got on as well as we always did through phone, email and video..After I received the email stating he was sorry, but needed this time, as he couldnt deal with this while dealing with problems at work (he also told me how much he loved me) I waited a week to reply, so I wouldnt be too emotional in my reply. Well thanks for sharing your story. I dont have any emotional baggage. I was in tears when I called him, I thought he would have the decency to at least call me back to clear the air! The conversation was left at that but still pondering about it, later that evening, I texted him to ask if he was married and he was like No and we kind of joked about it. Why would you torture someone who might not be in the best place in the first place for days not knowing if you would call? Yes, perhaps he would think you are a drama queen. Hes radio silent for weeks, and then now he all of a sudden texts you saying whats up or asking how youve been. Truth! So you may be willing to chat a little more with this vanisher, but be completely unwilling to accept this type of treatment again. I opened up to him deeply. Of and told me he has never met anyone like me and I was too good to be true but tjah he wants to settle Life is difficult, and then you die. Help ?? I promise. He would get very upset if I posted a new profile pic on FB or put a posting on. What if you just start to get comfortable with another guy and you can see a future with him and he pulls the disappearing act on you? I am sorry it didnt pan out. Im sorry this happened to you. In my heart, I am thinking that just maybe he didnt get this email, and that he blocked me for ignoring him. You felt it in your gut, called him out on it and he flaked some more. I wish you good luck and all the best! He also mentioned that on Thanksgiving they were running a Turkey Trot together, so Wednesday night I just sent him a text wishing them both luck. He called me a couple of days after I posted this haha (kinda drunk) and told me he really missed me and loved me but I was just like Im sleeping, we talk later (obviously It didnt happen). Lets take care of ourselves. Like where is this going conversation? Reading your comments helps. . As it stands3 yearsstill single, but happier alone than settling for some one who doesnt truly love me. The good news is, that doesnt diminish you and what you have to offer some other great guy. When we met it was like it was meant to be. 4 the top 5 Reasons why he Disappears (and how to avoid these traps) Reason Men Disappear #1 He's Great, But You Make Him Extraordinary you've been on a few dates with a guy and you're feeling good about things. I wasnt that into him in the beginning but he was really chasing and really I will say earned my attention. I guess I have to take my pick because hell never admit any of these reasons. I just want the spark back. Why not be yourself from the beginning? i wish this made me stronger but in fact it still hurts.. hope something better is waiting out there. 7 days no contact!! Some things SHOULD BE, and are, deal breakers. It will cost you both friendships and relationships. You never really praised him! I started blaming myself for being so ridiculous and silly and stupid. At 4 pm I texted him hey r u alive? I allowed him to sweet talk me back and tried to give him another chance. When I was a teenager, I was a part of a forum and met a lot of other teenagers there over so many years and one guy in particular I grew really close to. To be honest, I feel hes been seeing other people, which hey, was his prerogative if he desired as we werent serious, and we were just dating. I have recently been ghosted for the third time I gotta say, it sucks! Thursday he couldnt wait to come home to me and Friday he acted like I never existed.it just makes no sense to me. But for now, I just let myself cry and time will heal. Sunday night I felt that maybe he was embarrassed by not having sex so I sent another text. Its comforting to know others have gone through it and come out the other side, good luck to us all :-). Humans are complicated. Maybe you should wonder why? He disappeared with a riddle of a text message that I dont have the interest in trying to decode. As much as Im hurt and sad.the next time I see him, Im gonna tell him to play his games elsewhere..life is to short and I dont have the time. She probably doesnt see how this is such a turn off factor to you. I realized I didnt need closure or be rude. in almost a year, we act hide and seek, I hide he seek. You have only one issue you should be focusing on right now and that is, can I look after this baby on my own or do I even want this baby. Im 20, and in college, so i am probably dealing with a typical douche on my end. I cant be there for them at this time, and I can;t even tell them because I cant string 4 5 words together that would explain what I am going through. second date rolls around. He made me feel so special and told Hell get the hint and snap eventually, and youll get em back, especially if you stick to DVDs as your topic lol. After a week I felt that may be I should initiate a contact and wont mention about our differences. that i am one of the best woman he ever met.. but whatever!! Or like I said, perhaps we should bring back the hard times so we can get real men back. Ask him directly how he feels about the two of you, Other things you can do when he disappears (if you decide that you dont want to text him). Hell realize that he lost a girl who actually wanted to be his, one who would have fought for him and defended him in front of everyone. Last Saturday he invited me round to his house and we spike about things . I have read all the comments here, and I laughed out loud for 10 minutes at yours.it brought so much joy to meLadies please take note of Jasmines approach we have to BOSS UP!!!!! As you can see Im not over him and maybe if I would of ended contact in the beginning things would be different but I very much would like to have a second chance of being with him. I eventually met a guy in the same position as me, he lived on the other side of the world, and we just emailed everyday, getting to know each other. Do you care about a stranger? we still text each other once a week. Hi im Fay. I was abused and witnessed abuses as a kid! Then it's important to respond to his text in a manner that's calm and positive, but highly assertive. If youre busy or youre not into it or whatever, thats fine. I was so happy. What a shame it didnt work out. I feel very hurt and disappointed in myself for believing him. I know he is going through a lot of issues right now but just dont know what to think of this. I got ghosted today and i texted all night like a dumb-a. (no regrets, I do what I want) But quite honestly, I actually think this is kind of funny. If he still doesn't answer then you've got to let it go. I checked in with him to ask confirm, radio silence. Cause we got along well I dont get it. I do like him and I can see myself with him, not only as a friend but more than that. Smith, I just had to respond to your comment!!! And realize this also I am not looking for an instant relationship either. Hes a middle aged man and Im almost 60. I even bought some lil And he has been with models and girls who have had Timmy tuck and stuff like that. . She is not a bad person but sadly she is not normal due to her borderline personality disorder. Im ashamed to admit that I actually gave a guy who did this to me a second chance only to have him turn around and do the same thing again, and yesI let him have it!!! Please. He said I didnt do anything wrong he just had a bad day. You do deserve the best and you will find it.good luck dear!! Meeting strangers, and then having trust issues as we have no clue about how genuine or not their back ground is. And then youll find another new guy you can try and spin something great out of. And yes it will be really painful for us both. Since this (a fortnight) I havent attempted any more contact as I feel she was wanting out and she got her excuse to get out. I find the older I get the more men want to force me into a wedding ring. Only delete him if he told you to, or else his sloppy texts to you could be fun. A random person on the path of life? He told me it was a slight chance I could be pregnant and yeah I got mad but it was as much as my fault as his. unless last time when I sent a general invitation for an event in town , he replied by asking my holiday etc. . He was perfectly chatty, maybe a little staid? I feel like I will never get over it. But also he left me broke emotionally. It was a looooooong and painful journey that I dont regret taking. No one reserves the right to have a foot in the door of my life. He was leaving the next day, so I met up with him and asked him if he wanted to spend time with his friend instead but he said no and we went for brunch and then a walk and had a good time. What is your strategy? I will be with my friends this weekend. I was going to leave it at that but I decided to be mature and call him a week later to cut it off. I was crushed. If thats the case, he probably never got over her/the end of their marriage. he found my profile on professional network and added me. The man I was seeing is married. I understand you too and I know how it sucks. Men will continue to be themselves. Exact thing happened to me but this was with an ex that came back. Ive decided to not contact him anymore, let him come to me. I didnt even question it.that is unitl one day. My guy has been incognito for a little over two weeks now. I texted him the following evening (Monday) apologizing for staying so late, and said I hope he got enough sleep.